Archive for February, 2007

Missed Opportunities for Special Moments

February 25, 2007

I was at my friend’s birthday party last night.

I have known her for 3 years – she and I both moved to this area at the same time. 

She had invited a mixture of her friends from this period of her life, and her old friends.  It was a gathering of very interesting people.  Did I settle in and enjoy Special Moments connecting with these people?  You guessed it – I didn’t.

There was a party going on in the kitchen, and a group of us ended up sitting in the living room.  I felt completely trapped and like I was missing out on the real party.  Even though I really liked the people in the room with me, it wasn’t enough for me.  I’m ashamed to say I felt agitated and cheated of a good night because I couldn’t excuse myself without being rude and join the party in the other room.  Also, I didn’t have the confidence to walk into the other room and just start talking to people I didn’t know.

My husband, Tony, was at the party too.  He was in the kitchen.  I thought it was hilarious when he told me that the people in the kitchen were struggling with each other too, and they all had a sense that the real party was going on in the Living Room!!!

Anyway, neither of us really relaxed and enjoyed ourselves.  Instead of settling into the Present Moment and connecting with the people that were around me, I wanted the Present Moment to be different.  I was resisting my reality, and feeling powerless to change it.

The TRUTH was that I really did have the power to have a fantastic evening, but I let the opportunity pass me by.

Sometimes we need to mess up to really get back on track, so there is always a silver lining.  Being disappointed with my evening yesterday has really focussed me today, and I attracted hearing a fantastic interview with James Ray (see post) which set me on fire again.

I keep singing a particularly song in my head:

Always look on the bright side of life!


James Ray on Oprah

February 25, 2007

I have been on the ConsciousOne mailing list for some time, and was sent a link to an hour long interview with James Ray after his recent Oprah show appearance.  Well, I haven’t even listened to the entire interview yet, but I feel completely fired up and enthusiastic.  I have also experienced so many Special Moments because I am in a wonderful space to experience and appreciate them.  I give thanks for them, and therefore I get more.  Isn’t that fantastic??

James made it an intention to appear on the Oprah show 6 years ago, and it has happened in a fantastic way for him.  That is inspirational.  Anyway, some of the stuff I noted down that really resonated with me from the call:

 – Success resides in the details.  This is linked to the following point:

– Nothing great can be accomplished without enthusiasm.  This is a something James quoted – can’t remember who said it.

 I just loved those two little tips and they certainly gave me a lightbulb moment.  When you are enthusiastic about what you are doing, the details are fun, not tiresome!  When you pay attention to the details, the results can be astounding.

– Live in gratitude for the current moment, the current reality. 

Well now, does that remind you of the essence of Special Moments

– If you’re constantly living in your future, thinking about the future, you’re missing your Precious Present – another affirmation of Special Moments.

A caller called in and said that she has been working on being really positive, but every afternoon she hits a low where negative thoughts come in and she feels crap basically.  James asked her to ask herself this question:

‘What has to happen for you to be totally joyous and truly grateful for who you are and where you are right now?’

He was saying basically that she needs to change something about her life to do away with these afternoon lows.  As someone who really wants to thoroughly enjoy afternoons in my kitchen with my children doing their homework and chatting to me while I get the dinner ready I really have to examine this question myself.  I usually feel absolutely depressed in the afternoons and am very cranky with my kids.  I feel incredibly stressed as I try to make dinner, get them to after school activities and get homework done.  At the end of it, I don’t think anyone in this family feels valued, nurtured or validated! 

In relation to negative thinking, James recommends getting curious about what is lurking behind those thoughts.

He says

“Anything that is suppressed
will be expressed
in uglier ways
in later days!”

Ugh!  I think it must be really worth examining them as they come up, rather than wasting all that energy pushing them down for them to jump up and bite you again some time in the future.

The last one I want to tell you about that really helped me along was a guy who called who was feeling stuck in relation to his career.  He felt he couldn’t create a good career for himself. 

James advised him to:

“Write down all the things you don’t want in a career.  You’ll probably end up with a list of about 20 things from not wanting a controlling boss, to not wanting to earn a small salary…  Go back through each item on the list and ask yourself – what is the direct opposite of that?  List all of the exact opposites, and then you have a list of exactly what you do want!  They are your intention – now put attention on those and go out and make it happen.  Get in touch with that environment and that feeling that you really want, and you will start attracting it and moving towards it.

As someone who knows much more clearly what I don’t want rather than what I do want, this is a real eye opener for me!  I’m at a point where I am redesigning my career, so I’m going to do this exercise tonight. 

If you decide to give it a try, let me know how you get on!


Treasure Mapping – WOW – Creating Special Moments

February 20, 2007

I first heard about Treasure Mapping about a year or so ago, but it has taken me this long to try it.  Most recently I heard about it on – I am taking the Practical Geniuses course there, and while it is taking me a long time to go through the lessons, I heartily recommend it.

Back to Treasure Mapping – I am a convert – it is fantastic.

I spent a few hours looking through magazines and cutting out pictures and words that somehow resonated with me or inspired me.  I also cut out pictures of things that I would like to have, or pictures of how I would like to be or look.  I also added a couple of photos of my family.

Then I put them all together on one big sheet, playing around with the positioning until it looked right.  I also wrote some words or phrases that meant something to me.

God, but it inspires me and makes me feel fantastic!  When I see it I just feel so powerful, like anything is possible.

In the Law of Attraction, we are told that the key is to Feel Good.  If our vibration is good, then we attract wonderful things into our life.  What you focus on grows – well I would like to grow into this treasure map for sure.  Looking at it makes me feel fantastic, and I can feel myself moving towards what I want to be, do and have.

Try it for yourself – its brilliant.

When Special Moments Go Wrong!

February 20, 2007

I was trying to create some Special Moments

My husband and I hadn’t gotten a chance to spend some quiet time together around Valentine’s Day, so I decided to make a special meal, light candles, and create that time.

All was working well, except that I myself was not in a very calm space.  The whole event had become ‘work’ for me.  I was flying around the kitchen, the meal was coming to the point where it needed attention, I was trying to find candles, set the table nicely and get the kids to bed.

Then it happened…  I struck a match to light the candles and the top of the match lit, but at the same time flew off and up into my eye!!!

Well, that put a stop to my gallop, I can tell you.

But everything has an upside…  My eye was sore – stinging a lot – I had a burn on the very edge of my eyelid, just on top of the eyelash.  My husband came to the rescue with the cold press for it.  I stopped rushing around and just sat until I recovered.  I little ETS remedy from Perelandra and some Aloe Vera helped me recover quickly.

My family were all concerned for me and after dinner I got treated like a queen – put in sitting with my feet up and a glass of wine in front of the fire where they did the dishes… now there was a Special Moment.  Not the one I had planned, but a wonderful one just the same!

Looking back, I was trying too hard to MAKE a Special Moment.  That’s not what its about – its just about being calm enough in yourself to RECOGNISE the Special Moments as they occur.

I’m such a beginner at this stuff!!!

The Gratitude or The Lucky Game

February 16, 2007

This morning I was sitting down with my family at breakfast and we had several Special Moments in a row!!

I don’t know how this game started – you could say it was Divine inspiration – but we decided to play The Lucky Game.

We all had to take turns from eldest to youngest, and the goal was to do 5 rounds where on each round everyone said one thing they were really lucky for.

Tony started saying he was lucky to have a family he loved.  The kids needed a bit of help – one was lucky because he was able to go to school on the school bus – one was lucky because he got to play rugby – one was lucky because she had lots of friends – one was lucky because he had his own room – one was lucky because she had a pink jumper!

What I was hoping to achieve was that we all went about our day feeling blessed and really good about ourselves and our lives.  Certainly it started my day on a fantastic note, and we are definitely going to play it again.

One of the boys had difficulty finding things to be grateful for – he was feeling a bit low and he finds it difficult to come up from the depths when he is like that. 

Because things to be grateful for didn’t roll off the kids tongues, I feel that this is a game well worth using regularly with them.

As the Law of Attraction tells us, what we focus on grows.  Gratitude is like a fast track to feeling amazing.  I’m hoping to use this game to teach my kids about gratitude so that being grateful and feeling lucky comes naturally to them. Now that’s one way of walking towards living a truly fantastic life!

If you decide to try this one, I’d love to know how it goes in your home.

Did You See the Oprah Show on The Secret?

February 15, 2007

The show hasn’t been aired in Ireland yet, but I was lucky enough to get a link to watch it online on from the Gwenn Bonnell website  The link was  I’m not sure how long this link will be open.

I took some notes when I watched last night and here they are:

  • The Law of Attraction – we attract each and every circumstance and experience into our lives.
    • Every single thing has a gift in it.  Say to yourself:
      • Every experience I have had has made me who I am, AND I LOVE MYSELF.
      • If this were to last forever, what quality would give me peace of mind?
  • Love
    • You have to love yourself before others can love you.  Say to yourself:
      • I’m the first example of how the world is supposed to love me – I need to give the best example EVER.
      • Love Beauty – Love me at my core.
  • Gratitude
    • Nothing new can come into your life until you are grateful for what you have.
  • Weight
    • Love your body.  Say to yourself:
      • Thank you for my health.  I love my legs for carrying me around(and so on)… I choose to become healthy and whole.
    • Do you believe you have the right to have the body, the shape you want to have. 
  • Live your Best Life
    • I choose today to give myself the best life ever.
    • In order to get something new, we have to be able to let go.
    • We hold on to our stories.  If you’re really ready to move forward, then you must be ready to let go.
    • It is your BIRTHRIGHT to feel good.  CLAIM it NOW.  You deserve, right now, to feel your best.
    • To get what you want in life create visuals – a visual map of what you want.
    • Take Action.  Create a better ‘Me’.  Have the intention of growing more, learning more, having the capacity to provide more value.
    • To manifest what you want in life:
      • ASK (once only – asking more shows a lack of trust)
      • BELIEVE
      • RECEIVE
    • Then there is the ACTION step – walk in the direction of what you want.
  •  Forgiveness
    • Can you say to the person “Thank you for giving me that experience”.  So many gifts come out of the experience.
    • Debt is a function of unforgiveness.  Saying to the Universe “Somebody owes me something”, or “I don’t have …”.

 Obviously there was so much more in the programme, and these notes would mean much more to you in the context of the programme.  The Secret DVD will give you all the info you need to create your BEST LIFE.  You can get a copy on

Wishing you magic, love, abundance and lots and lots of fun.


Why Do We Not Do What is Good For Us?

February 12, 2007

I have a confession to make…

I have not been filling in my Special Moments book.

I am feeling crap – I have had a really busy weekend, which I found really stressful, and I had a very disorganised start to the week.  This always adds to my stress and makes me feel like I am just not in control.

I have been feeling negative and I have not been using the tool that I know works to focus on the positive – my Special Moments notebook.  Now, as I write this and think back over the weekend, I can recall a few really Special Moments:

  •  a great chat with my sister-in-law
  • singing Happy Birthday very loudly with my kids to my Mam
  • a great laugh with my husband

There is a certain happiness missing in me as I go through my day.  I certainly don’t feel I am living my life in full technicolour.

Well – that’s not the promise I made to myself, so I am making a promise now that I am resurrecting the Special Moments notebook, and I am going to write 5 Special Moments every day. 

If you have any Special Moments you would like to share, I’d love to hear about them – it would really give me a great lift to hear that there are others out there trying the same experiment.

Wishing everyone many many Special Moments.


Senses – They Are the Key

February 6, 2007

As I was listing my Special Moments I realised that most of them entailed really experiencing a moment through the senses.

Let me explain:

Maybe it was a hug with my daughter – Touch

Maybe it was hearing a great song – Hearing

Maybe it was really seeing someone – the truth of who they are – Sight

Maybe it was smelling beautiful flowers – Smell

Maybe it was experiencing beautiful food – Taste

I used to attending a Philosophy Class, and now I remember that we were lead into relaxation using the senses.  They felt that this was a route to the experience of the moment. Well then, they are a route to Special Moments also.

Do We Need Trauma to Really Experience Life?

February 6, 2007

A wonderful friend said something scary to me recently.  She said that in all honesty, she believed that she would get breast cancer (a very scary statement if you believe, as I do, in the Law of Attraction).  This might sound strange, but she was just being totally honest about her innermost feelings and fears. 

She felt that she needed to get breast cancer in order to shock herself into prioritising her life and focusing on the important things.  She felt that she needed this life lesson in order to live her best life in full technicolour.  As she explained what she felt the important things were, she described Special Moments

I get very stressed – I live an incredibly busy life – I would like to change that – but even on very stressful days I can find many Special Moments and they serve to bring me back, even momentarily, to what is important.

My wish for my great friend, for me, and for you is that we don’t need trauma to bring us to our senses, to make us focus on the important things in our lives.  My wish is that just by turning our focus and attention to those wonderful moments and miracles that occur so many times every day in our lives, we can train ourselves to experience those moments intensely.  Those ordinary moments, when truly experienced, have the potential to add up to an extraordinary life.

If you have any Special Moments to share, I’d love to hear about them.


Special Moments – 5th February 2007

February 5, 2007
  • A fantastic hug with my 5 year old daughter
  • Seeing my 10 year old bouncing in the door from school, feeling great
  • My 8 year old son telling me that he swam without a board for the first time at his swimming class today.  He was so pleased to have achieved that.
  • Feeling really connected with my husband – just that feeling that we really are in a good space with each other.  I really like him, you know!
  • Seeing the sun coming in shafts through the clouds today
  • Feeling a wonderful lift in my spirits when someone suggested a wonderful idea to solve a problem of lack of sunlight in my kitchen.  This one has been troubling me since we moved in 3 years ago, and today I think I was given the gift of a fantastic solution. 
  • Hearing the news that my sister can babysit on Saturday night!!
  • Feeling like everything is just falling into place – like I am attracting answers to lots of different things.  It feels great, like opening up again – I had been feeling closed down for the past few days – I wonder if I hadn’t been feeling down, would I have missed this wonderful feeling of opening up?  There is a gift in everything!