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A Light Bulb Moment – Perfectionism leads to Misery

October 18, 2007

Why didn’t I realise it before?

I am what I call a Recovering Perfectionist.  (If you were to see my home, you would say I am completely recovered!!!)

My Light Bulb Moment? I realised that my perfectionism has contributed to me being FAT. 

I have been doing Marna Goldstein’s course on using the Law of Attraction to attract the body you want.  Her site is  As part of the course I was writing the story of how I put on my weight.  The thinking is that you have to release the past before you can move forward to a brand new you.

I realised that I always hated bits of my body.   What did I focus on?  The bits that I hated.  I couldn’t even acknowledge or notice the bits that I liked.  What was the result?  I got more of what I focussed on – bits of me that are too large and the wrong shape.  I became bigger than I have ever been and I have attracted it. 

I had read before that everything in your life you experience you have attracted.  I knew on an intellectual level that I had attracted an overweight body that I feel very ashamed of, but I didn’t really understand how – until now.

What does a perfectionist focus on?  THE IMPERFECTIONS.  When you are focussing on the imperfections, are you feeling gratitude for the bits that are right?  Generally not.  What is the perfectionist attracting (usually with great emotion!)?  More imperfections.  Your Wish Is My Command!!!

I vote for Gratitude, Appreciation, Celebration of the Good Bits. 

I am well on the road to recovering from the disease of Perfectionism.

Here’s to attracting a beautiful, slim, healthy body full of vitality, and appreciating and being grateful for the body I have now is the path to success.

The Continuation of the Diary Saga

October 18, 2007

Well my work diary is still very blank this week.  I have been feeling terrified, distraught, delighted and blessed about this fact at different times during the week!

Anyway, I have been using the gift of this extra time when I should have been having clients to do a little ‘Life Review’ and to look again at the wealth of information I have on the Law of Attraction.  In short, I have been having a ball.  I have been actually DOING some of the exercises, instead of just reading about them!  The results have been brilliant.

What is the outcome of this time?  I have come up with some wonderful ideas about a new direction for my practice and business.  What do they say?  Help someone else to achieve what you want to achieve yourself.  Well, I want to achieve an EXTRAORDINARY LIFE – I want to LIVE MY LIFE ‘ON PURPOSE’ rather than just drift on through.  I want to live A LIFE ON FIRE!!!  I am working on developing Seminars and short courses introducting others to the Law of Attraction and how to live a LIFE ON PURPOSE!

I don’t know if it comes across to you – but I am feeling really excited about this.  I am also terrified at the thought of introducing people to this and fielding questions etc., but I am determined to work through those fears and forge ahead.  This feels great.

What is the link to the diary?  Well, I think it is possible that the Universe gave me the gift of this time to give me the space to see a better path forward for me that will bring me more happiness and abundance.  The fact that my bank account is not too healthy at the moment was also important, because I used the time well instead of going shopping and indulging in some retail therapy!!

Thank you, Universe, I feel great.  As an aside – the diary is looking much healthier next week.  I’d better get my skates on and work hard on designing these Seminars while I have the gift of the time!

Celebration Time, COME ON!!!

October 18, 2007

A friend is celebrating her 40th birthday today, and two of us took her and her little son out for lunch to mark the day. 

I was amazed at how difficult it was to ‘celebrate‘ her – I gave her her birthday card and a present, and she looked pained as she received and opened it.  She was really embarrassed to be given a gift.  My God, receiving can be difficult!

Anyway, as the lunch progressed, it was like any ordinary day.  I felt something was missing from the event – a sparkle, the magic of celebrating this wonderful woman.

As we walked through the gardens of the cafe, I privately whispered congratulations to her on her 40th birthday – and reminded her of all the people she had touched with her kindness and generosity in her 40 years – cheesey I know, but my God its true.  She is an incredibly gentle, warm, generous person and I feel privileged to know her.

On the journey back to collect my kids from school, I got to thinking about celebrating life.  I could feel my heart sing.  Why do we need birthdays to celebrate?  Really, if a life is well-lived, shouldn’t there be things to celebrate every day?

Celebration is like Gratitude – it makes you feel fantastic.  When you feel fantastic you attract fantastic things into your life.

I, for one, am on the celebration trail.  I’m off to celebrate.  What?  Here’s a few, just for starters:

– A wonderful husband who inspires me, supports me and who I admire every day

– Three fantastic kids who bring energy, fun, and wisdom to my life, and who challenge me in every way possible every day!

– A beautiful day

– Time to enjoy my thoughts and write this blog

– Feeling great!

– New clients

– Ideas and inspiration

The list goes on, and on, thank You Universe.

If Life is truly for LIVING, then Life is truly for CELEBRATING.

Have fun!!!

The Therapist’s Lot or a Nudge from The Universe?

October 15, 2007

I have been blogging about my diary woes – I am a reflexologist with a part-time practice.  My circumstances have changed (my kids are all in school now) and I have more hours to take appointments, but the number of bookings has not yet filled the extra hours.  As I worry about this, my current clients are all doing really well and don’t need treatments as regularly, which of course means that the diary is less full even than usual!

 My entries have been tagged by a site for massage therapists and a site of hypnotherapists, which made me realise that this is very relevant for all therapists.  The joys (and woes) of being diary-driven!

Well, my update is that I have decided to use my time to do something I have been meaning to do for ages but never quite got the impetus up to do it.  I am working on the content for a six-week course based around the Law of Attraction and Raising Your Vibration.  I have been toying with this idea for ages and my sister came to visit at the weekend.  We were chatting about the fact that my therapy work is slow just now and she encouraged me (not very politely or gently) to get my act together and just put the course content together and DO IT!!! 

Do you know what?  I’m having a ball!  What is it they say – we teach what we most need to learn!  Well – I have been reading about and talking about and thinking about the Law of Attraction for so long, but somehow some of the pieces are missing because I’m not attracting what I want.  Putting this course content together is great fun – I’m studying the Law of Attraction and doing all the exercises I am coming across.  I feel great.  I’m definitely raising my vibration as I work on this, and I love it.

 Are the blank spaces in my diary a little nudge from the Universe to help me to fulfil my goal of creative and fulfilling work that is financially rewarding and fits with family schedules?  It may be!  As Mike Dooley tells us, ( – if you don’t get his Notes from the Universe, sign up today!) focus on the END RESULT, not on the cursed hows.

I’m off to do my 5 minutes visualizing myself feeling fantastic, fulfilled, successful, abundant, really buzzed by what I am doing and bringing all that buzz and excitement back into my family life – loving what I do and loving my family and most of all, loving myself!!!

Perspective is the Key

October 3, 2007

How come when we’re in one mood something makes us delighted and blissfully happy.  On another day, in another mood, the exact same circumstances depress us!!!  One day the circumstances qualify as Special Moments – another day they are the complete opposite.

Let me illustrate – one morning last week my kids were gone to school.  My kitchen was clean and I was sitting at the stove with my husband at 9.15am having a cuppa and a chat.  Bliss?  No – not that morning!  I was completely depressed.  I was distraught because I had no clients booked in for reflexology.  All I was focussed on was the lack of work at that time.  I was feeling guilty for having time with my husband at that time of the day – I should have been working and earning.

Later that day I went out for a walk and had a lightbulb moment – in the dreams I have for the perfect life for me – time in my home to myself or with my husband are a cornerstone of the dream.  Imagine, I was experiencing part of my dream and instead of being grateful to the Universe I was berating it!!!

Where is all this going?  I don’t know.  If anyone out there has any words of wisdom, I would sure love to hear them.  It seems to me that the most important thing in the world is to feel good in yourself, about yourself.  For me, that feeling good about myself is very linked to what I work at, the quality of work I do, and what other people think of me.  Warped or what?  That completely blocks me from enjoying life.

Maybe today, I will manage to keep a good perspective.  I’m sitting in my kitchen.  It is clean and my kids are gone to school.  Today feels different, thank you Universe.

 The difference has to be how we are feeling.

Kids are so good at the Law of Attraction

August 19, 2007

We were having a chat over breakfast one morning, and one of the kids said something that blew us away.  I can’t remember what we were chatting about, but one of the kids said : Great Things Happen to the Murphy Family. 

Well, that comment stopped us in our tracks.  Immediately we decided to adopt this as our Family Motto.  Talk about attracting good things for our family if we really believed this to be true.

So our family motto is : Valde res contingo Murphy prosapia

Great Things Happen to the Murphy Family

(Any Latin scholars out there – please let me know if the translation is correct!)

Angels and The Law of Rhythm in all it’s GLORY

April 5, 2007

Wow!  What a day!

I am definitely on a peak in terms of the Law of Rhythm.  It feels fantastic!!!  If I’m really honest, though, I’m glad I know I’m on a peak, and I don’t have to keep up this incredible energy level and work rate.

I said a prayer to the angels this morning.  I got the prayer on a Doreen Virtue website.  It was on the sales page for her new angel course.  The text is here:

Archangel Michael, I ask you and your helpers to come to me now.  Please cut away and release anything that is draining me.  Help toleft my energy to its natural state of vitality now.  Thank you.

Wow!!!  Try it for yourself!  If the course is even half as good as the angel prayers, it must really blow your mind!

I was being a mammy today (my kids are off school for their Easter holidays), and writing a project for my horticulture course, and doing up a planting plan for a client, and networking for my new business, and organising a playdate for my son, and doing the supermarket shopping, and cleaning my son’s bedroom so his granny can stay when she comes tomorrow, and planning meals for visitors all weekend, and digging in my garden …..  The list goes on.

The best bit – the very best bit – is that I did all this in good form.  I was a really good mammy today.  I was patient, I was positive, everyone was happy and it was a good day in the Murphy household.

Now all I have to do is remember, when I am in a trough, that I achieved enough today to allow myself to achieve very little on those other days, and just accept where I am at.


April 2, 2007

To be a good friend remember that we are human magnets: that like attracts like and that as we give we get.

Wilfred Peterson
This quote was in an email from the From the Masters website, and it was timely for me today.

I have just come off the phone with an old friend whose father died last week.  I hadn’t seen her for about 2 years, until I went to her father’s funeral.  I felt very sad that her father had died, but I was crying at that funeral for myself, really.  I was crying because I had not been a good friend to her over the last couple of years.  I have been too busy with my own life, and I was not there to support her during her father’s illness.

If you had asked me last week who my best friend was, I would have said it was my husband. 

This week, though, I realised that my relationship with him is just like a mirror of my relationship with myself.

Let me explain:

Last week I was indulging in some very negative self-talk.  I was on a downward spiral.  The more I gave out to myself and focussed on my weaknesses, the worse my humour became.  I felt like a horrible human being with a great big black heart.  I was introverted and incommunicative.  My heart was closed.  Did this make for a happy relationship with my spouse?  No.  We didn’t argue.  We just lived alongside each other.  A life of mediocrity. It made us both pretty miserable.

This lasted for about a week, when on the same morning, we both decided that something needed to be done.  Somehow, it was also the first morning that I was beginning to feel a little more charitable towards myself.  My heart felt more open, and we were back on track.  We were communicating openly again, loving each other again, and the whole world seemed like a beautiful place.

I realised that my best friend has to be myself.  I need to treat myself like I would aspire to treat my best friend. 

FEELING GOOD – its the only way.  Mediocrity is not good enough for me – I want an extraordinary life filled with miracles, wonder, and an incredibly happy marriage!!!

The Law of Rhythm, according to James Ray and my Sister-in-Law!

April 2, 2007

A few weeks ago I found myself having a really interesting chat with my husband’s sister.  We were chatting about her work as a lecturer.  She was explaining that when she was feeling good, her productivity was just amazing and her lecturing was on fire!  However, the down side – there were other times when she was just completely ineffective and incapable of performing well.  She said she has had days when it has been difficult to string a sentence together!

I was intrigued, because she was articulating something that I had an awareness of in my own life, but had never been able to quite grasp or understand.  I, too, experience that same rhythm.  I have phases of amazing productivity.  Everything just falls into place perfectly.  I achieve a huge amount.  I am in the ZONE!!  The other side of the coin is just crap (a way we Irish have of expressing how terrible something is).  I can seem to get nothing done.  I feel like I am climbing a steep hill, fighting against the tide to achieve anything.  Everything feels like such a huge deal.  Also, when I am in this space, it is so hard to feel positive about things.  My sense of TRUST goes out the window!  I don’t TRUST that everything will be okay, and I don’t TRUST that this is just a phase and I will find myself back in the ZONE before long.  This sends me into a completely panic that my life is falling apart.  Not fun at all, for me or for those unlucky enough to be around me!!

Imagine my relief when I heard James Ray speak about the Law of Rhythm.  It felt so much better when I heard someone whose opinion I really respect put a name on this pattern in my life.  It immediately took the panic out of it.  He expressed what it was like for him when he was in a downward phase.  It is so reassuring when you hear someone who seems to have life sorted express that they experience the same downward phases in their life that you do. 

Somehow, I still am not at a place where I can just trust the downward phase, stop pushing so hard at trying to achieve and just let it pass.  I’m getting there, though.  And I certainly enjoy the good phases! 

This last week has been a downward phase for me.  But I can feel it – I’m on the way back up again!  I’m determined to enjoy the ride!!

Ask and You Shall Receive

March 26, 2007

Here’s a slightly different topic for this blog – Angels!!

Angels have been a huge influence in my life.  I forget about them often, but when I think of them and include them in my life, magic happens.

Angels led me (several times – I don’t get hints very easily!) to my career change.  As most of you know, I’m currently doing a course in Horticulture, and loving nearly every minute of it.

Well, I have been troubled about what direction I’m going to take in this new world of gardening.  As is my usual pattern, I agonise over it privately, turning it over and over in my mind.  I use up loads of energy doing this, and I completely forget to rely on the invisible support of the Universe, the Divine, Angels, whatever you like to call it!

One day last week I was driving to my work experience job, and I asked the angels to give me a sign about the best path to take in my new career.  That day I got phonecalls giving me 3 different pieces of work in landscape gardening and design!  I was thrilled – then I was terrified – then I was thrilled and so on….

Today I went to see 3 of the gardens.  I came out feeling totally overwhelmed, under-skilled and terrified.  I phoned my husband (my earth angel!) and told him I was in completely over my head.  He started a new business 3 years ago, and he was having none of it!! He told me that this terror was just how it feels at the beginning, and I just have to step way out of my comfort zone and get through it.  I phoned a gardening student friend, expecting some sympathy, and she said exactly the same thing!  Angels talking to me again?

Anyway, I have spent the evening pouring over my plant books, asking the angels for help, and I have come up with the initial planting plan!

I am feeling very pleased with myself, and I am FEELING GOOD!  This evening was an evening filled with differrent kinds of Special Moments – moments with the kids, conversations with people that love and support me, and fabulous time dreaming about gorgeous plants and how they are going to look together. 

That is my dream, my goal.  That is what I said I wanted.