Archive for the ‘Perspective’ Category

A Light Bulb Moment – Perfectionism leads to Misery

October 18, 2007

Why didn’t I realise it before?

I am what I call a Recovering Perfectionist.  (If you were to see my home, you would say I am completely recovered!!!)

My Light Bulb Moment? I realised that my perfectionism has contributed to me being FAT. 

I have been doing Marna Goldstein’s course on using the Law of Attraction to attract the body you want.  Her site is  As part of the course I was writing the story of how I put on my weight.  The thinking is that you have to release the past before you can move forward to a brand new you.

I realised that I always hated bits of my body.   What did I focus on?  The bits that I hated.  I couldn’t even acknowledge or notice the bits that I liked.  What was the result?  I got more of what I focussed on – bits of me that are too large and the wrong shape.  I became bigger than I have ever been and I have attracted it. 

I had read before that everything in your life you experience you have attracted.  I knew on an intellectual level that I had attracted an overweight body that I feel very ashamed of, but I didn’t really understand how – until now.

What does a perfectionist focus on?  THE IMPERFECTIONS.  When you are focussing on the imperfections, are you feeling gratitude for the bits that are right?  Generally not.  What is the perfectionist attracting (usually with great emotion!)?  More imperfections.  Your Wish Is My Command!!!

I vote for Gratitude, Appreciation, Celebration of the Good Bits. 

I am well on the road to recovering from the disease of Perfectionism.

Here’s to attracting a beautiful, slim, healthy body full of vitality, and appreciating and being grateful for the body I have now is the path to success.

The Continuation of the Diary Saga

October 18, 2007

Well my work diary is still very blank this week.  I have been feeling terrified, distraught, delighted and blessed about this fact at different times during the week!

Anyway, I have been using the gift of this extra time when I should have been having clients to do a little ‘Life Review’ and to look again at the wealth of information I have on the Law of Attraction.  In short, I have been having a ball.  I have been actually DOING some of the exercises, instead of just reading about them!  The results have been brilliant.

What is the outcome of this time?  I have come up with some wonderful ideas about a new direction for my practice and business.  What do they say?  Help someone else to achieve what you want to achieve yourself.  Well, I want to achieve an EXTRAORDINARY LIFE – I want to LIVE MY LIFE ‘ON PURPOSE’ rather than just drift on through.  I want to live A LIFE ON FIRE!!!  I am working on developing Seminars and short courses introducting others to the Law of Attraction and how to live a LIFE ON PURPOSE!

I don’t know if it comes across to you – but I am feeling really excited about this.  I am also terrified at the thought of introducing people to this and fielding questions etc., but I am determined to work through those fears and forge ahead.  This feels great.

What is the link to the diary?  Well, I think it is possible that the Universe gave me the gift of this time to give me the space to see a better path forward for me that will bring me more happiness and abundance.  The fact that my bank account is not too healthy at the moment was also important, because I used the time well instead of going shopping and indulging in some retail therapy!!

Thank you, Universe, I feel great.  As an aside – the diary is looking much healthier next week.  I’d better get my skates on and work hard on designing these Seminars while I have the gift of the time!

The Therapist’s Lot or a Nudge from The Universe?

October 15, 2007

I have been blogging about my diary woes – I am a reflexologist with a part-time practice.  My circumstances have changed (my kids are all in school now) and I have more hours to take appointments, but the number of bookings has not yet filled the extra hours.  As I worry about this, my current clients are all doing really well and don’t need treatments as regularly, which of course means that the diary is less full even than usual!

 My entries have been tagged by a site for massage therapists and a site of hypnotherapists, which made me realise that this is very relevant for all therapists.  The joys (and woes) of being diary-driven!

Well, my update is that I have decided to use my time to do something I have been meaning to do for ages but never quite got the impetus up to do it.  I am working on the content for a six-week course based around the Law of Attraction and Raising Your Vibration.  I have been toying with this idea for ages and my sister came to visit at the weekend.  We were chatting about the fact that my therapy work is slow just now and she encouraged me (not very politely or gently) to get my act together and just put the course content together and DO IT!!! 

Do you know what?  I’m having a ball!  What is it they say – we teach what we most need to learn!  Well – I have been reading about and talking about and thinking about the Law of Attraction for so long, but somehow some of the pieces are missing because I’m not attracting what I want.  Putting this course content together is great fun – I’m studying the Law of Attraction and doing all the exercises I am coming across.  I feel great.  I’m definitely raising my vibration as I work on this, and I love it.

 Are the blank spaces in my diary a little nudge from the Universe to help me to fulfil my goal of creative and fulfilling work that is financially rewarding and fits with family schedules?  It may be!  As Mike Dooley tells us, ( – if you don’t get his Notes from the Universe, sign up today!) focus on the END RESULT, not on the cursed hows.

I’m off to do my 5 minutes visualizing myself feeling fantastic, fulfilled, successful, abundant, really buzzed by what I am doing and bringing all that buzz and excitement back into my family life – loving what I do and loving my family and most of all, loving myself!!!

The Diary is Still Ruling my Self-Esteem

October 11, 2007

If you’ve read recent posts, you’ll realise that I am a reflexologist working with angels with a part-time practice from home.  Lately, actually since I started working with the angels in the treatments, they have become much more powerful.

I’m delighted with this new way of working.  I enjoy it a lot, and clients are experiencing fantastic results on deep-seated issues.

However, my diary is not as full as I would like.  Clients do not need treatments as often and new clients are slow to manifest.

The real issue is that I have discovered that my sense of self-esteem is dependent on the diary.  I know that sounds mad, but that is how it feels.  If the diary is running nicely, I feel great.  I feel like I am fulfilling my purpose – I have a sense of self-worth arising from the work I am doing, and I am contributing to household finances which makes me and everyone else very happy indeed.

Lately, I have become aware of the diary running how I feel about myself.  On Wed a new client booked in and I was delighted.  I had a sense that things were on the up.  I put a lot of energy into preparing really well for the session.  Result?  She didn’t show.  Turns out she has the flu and couldn’t come for the treatment.  It was really difficult to see this time as a gift of extra time for me.

As I write this I think it all seems really silly.  Just get out there are advertise a little.  Let people know you’re here.  But energetically I think there is something going on.  There is a lesson for me in this somewhere.

 Lightbulb!!!  I have been working with the angels during the treatments, but I never asked for help with the diary!!!!  I’ll let you know how it works out.

Perspective – The Definitive Quote

October 5, 2007

We do not see things as THEY are, but as WE are.”

Wow!!!  I heard this on an audio programme by Joe Vitale and Dr. Hew Len from their Zero Limits Workshop.  I highly recommend it.  Its all about getting back to Source or Zero.

 When Joe read this quote I was blown away.  Perspective is so important in life.  One set of circumstances on two different days in two different moods can result in completely different feelings.  See my earlier post on Perspective for my story on this one.

I have come to believe and know that it is my responsibility to FEEL GOOD and from this place I can experience so many circumstances in my life, so many events as Special Moments. 

I have to tell you that while I believe and know this to be true, the reality of it is another matter entirely.  I have Special Moments of feeling good and even great, and I heave a sigh of relief and say – Great, I’m there!!! 

Half an hour later, I’m back down in the dumps again.

My new tool, and one I think is really in line with TRUTH, is Ho’oponopono.  Get Joe Vitale’s new book ‘Zero Limits’ to find out all about it.

Perspective – the continuation

October 5, 2007

Ok, so the reflexology client diary is still very empty this week.  It is completely scary when this happens.  Here I am with time, skills, sincerity and BILLS to PAY, and the appointment book, for some reason, is empty.  Also, I feel better about myself with 3 school-going kids if I am working and contributing to the household whenever the kids are not around.

I am trying (see last post) to keep perspective – to look after myself and do things with this gift of time that build me up and make me feel good.  I mean this kind of time is a rare gift so its an awful pity to waste it feeling worried, isn’t it?

Two days ago I had one client booked for my Thursday evening – usually I have two.  Then someone came along and booked the second slot.  I was thrilled.  Things were finally shifting and work was coming in again.  I went about my business feeling totally different about myself.  The worry was gone.

What happened?  Half an hour before the treatment, this person cancelled abruptly – I felt like the rug had been pulled out from under me.  If I’m honest, I was furious.

When I settled down to use the unexpected gift of time for meditation and angel cards, I realised that the Universe had given me the gift of a couple of days without worry.  It had helped me feel secure about my appointment book, but still gave me the extra time for reflection.

Universe, I ask you – help me to have this wonderful guilt- free time AND an abundance of money to PAY the BILLS!!!

Perspective is the Key

October 3, 2007

How come when we’re in one mood something makes us delighted and blissfully happy.  On another day, in another mood, the exact same circumstances depress us!!!  One day the circumstances qualify as Special Moments – another day they are the complete opposite.

Let me illustrate – one morning last week my kids were gone to school.  My kitchen was clean and I was sitting at the stove with my husband at 9.15am having a cuppa and a chat.  Bliss?  No – not that morning!  I was completely depressed.  I was distraught because I had no clients booked in for reflexology.  All I was focussed on was the lack of work at that time.  I was feeling guilty for having time with my husband at that time of the day – I should have been working and earning.

Later that day I went out for a walk and had a lightbulb moment – in the dreams I have for the perfect life for me – time in my home to myself or with my husband are a cornerstone of the dream.  Imagine, I was experiencing part of my dream and instead of being grateful to the Universe I was berating it!!!

Where is all this going?  I don’t know.  If anyone out there has any words of wisdom, I would sure love to hear them.  It seems to me that the most important thing in the world is to feel good in yourself, about yourself.  For me, that feeling good about myself is very linked to what I work at, the quality of work I do, and what other people think of me.  Warped or what?  That completely blocks me from enjoying life.

Maybe today, I will manage to keep a good perspective.  I’m sitting in my kitchen.  It is clean and my kids are gone to school.  Today feels different, thank you Universe.

 The difference has to be how we are feeling.